I am beyond tired of hearing people keep telling me I look good because ‘I’m a size 8’, or ‘I’ve dropped countless pounds’. It’s incredible that in the world we live in, people express such negative feelings towards their bodies. They feel that because I’m not afraid to go up a size to a 34/8 that I don’t look good, or don’t look good enough for other people looking at me.
Unfortunately, in most cases, the people saying such negative things are also dieting themselves to death, so it’s no surprise why they’re not particularly happy with their bodies. All I am going to do, is tell you the real truth about how much a size 8 matters at all to me. It doesn’t matter if I went a size down to a 32/4, the clothes would still be the same? And I don’t care if I went down a size to a 32/2 either. What matters to me is how I feel when I am wearing the clothes I own, and not what the scale says or what my weight is.
It’s been drilled into our heads for years that weight is what makes us unhealthy. Deep down people know this. They know that being a little overweight makes things worse, especially in the way it effects their bodies’ chemistry. What a lot of people are conscious of is their weight because everyone else is!
So on the one hand, if we’re being honest with ourselves, we know we wouldn’t be living as hard, disciplined lives if our weight wasn’t affecting us in so many ways. And on the other hand, we know there isn’t a magic pill out there that we can take, or safe food that we can eat that will make us lose weight over night. So how does this knowledge influence our behaviour?
It’s important to understand that although weight affects our feelings, it doesn’t affect us in the same way as the way our height does. Height can be used to judge someone’s height. Both of these are important and useful terms, but where weight comes in is really all about the chemistry in how our bodies run. You could be at the top of the swings at the park, and be very strong and stable and walk okay. But if someone is much smaller, then their balance is off, and they could do the swings with ease – without any type of rigor. This doesn’t mean you’re not powerful or good. It just means you have to work a little harder to be more.
If we simply hooked up with our minds to measure our weight, we’d be thinking that when we’re more than our ideal weight we are in a great condition. But the way our weight perceptions are actually experienced by the body isbalancedwith everything in the body at the same weight. Bear with me on this- when you walk up a small flight of steps, your body is capable of tipping the foundation off the ground and maybe even make you miss the step, or land on the opposite corner. Pay extreme attention to how your body is maintaining it’s center of gravity. Is it reducing weight or pushing it out of alignment? If it’s pushed out of alignment, then the effects are likely to be negative from the perspective of your body.
Weight ‘n the body is essentially seen as a balance of two opposing forces, which cancel each other out. We have stress, which allows the weight to ‘iggle out’ from between our bones and in through our lymph nic regenerating organs. This is in regards to the fatigue and storms of our daily lives. But also stress that is not natural to the body, like being stressed out while driving the car by stress that is caused by the 30 seconds of traffic that comes up on an empty street corner.
Our ‘lifestyle health box’ is basically our body’s natural protective system. And when it’s abused, it doesn’t show us any signs- which is why you don’t get a headural symptom the day after a half hour of a massive takeaway dinner. The weight is put back on as soon as the stress goes away.
So we are looking at our weight ‘comfort zone’ in terms of how our body’s react, not their weight ‘ideal’. So if you go out for a meal and eat when everyone else is, you’ll have a very different experience to say the people next to you. If that meal is an enabler of emotional eating, you should consider chucking it and trying to balance your life more and eat in line with your own needs. It’s funny how much weaker people feel as they listen to someone talk about how they lost weight, when it was all going down in smoke! Imagine if you were angry and someone was talking about blowing you up, do you really think they’d stop?
So weight is an interesting beast – can we talksizecomfort?
